My stomach, head, foot, etc…hurts, I can’t go to school. Who hasn’t at some point heard these complaints? Sometimes there is truth behind them, as physical ailments can strike at any time, but if they happen consistently you might begin to see a pattern. Are they always on the morning of a spelling test, or before that after-school activity on Wednesdays? What does it mean and what should you as their parent do?
First, always listen to your child’s concerns. There may be a hidden message. Second, keep track of these complaints for the pattern. As you listen, you may get a hint as to what is really going on.
What you may think of as a dislike for an activity maybe more of a cry for help. Parents need to talk, and LISTEN always. Bullying comes in many forms and is real in all age groups. It can be verbal, physical or exclusion tactics. All cause distress and need to be addressed promptly. Align with your child’s teacher, principal, babysitter and maybe even his or her friend if your child will not tell you directly. Your nurse or pediatrician can also help decipher behavior and resolve problems.